Why Men Don’t Go to Their MistressOn September 11, 2020 by Helen Rogers
Some facts about men and his “second” ladies. Someone don’t like changing. Someone just love 2 or more women. So some men just like to live with wife and have mistress.
Habit keeps them going
It is physically and psychologically hard to change the “comfort zone” that has been established for many years. Just habits make people refuse to fulfill their desires with time, to work for a long time at work which they do not like, but it is understandable, habitual, it is not so terrible, there is no necessity to study something new, to strain brains, to remember, to readjust. In a family everything is clear, all the habits are worked out, as well as rituals, communication, even a list of claims they make to each other. And if they leave, they have to start all over again. Banal laziness and fear prevent this from happening.
Not all men see a mistress in his wife’s place
She is an outlet for him, someone who makes his blood boil, but as the mother of his children, as a partner, a spouse who can be presented to friends, bosses or business partners is not suitable for him. He is attracted to her beauty, youth, the opportunity to try something new, the psychological and physical satisfaction that he attracts other members of the fair sex. Only this plays no role when it comes to her becoming his new wife.
They don’t see the point in swapping one woman, for another
After all, once the mistress changes status, she will also start demanding help from him, fulfillment of obligations, scolding, making claims about domestic issues, etc. Now he has an opportunity to rest at her place, not to hear any demands, but just to come to relax, relieve himself and return home to his worries and difficulties. And he is quite happy with this situation.
The presence of a mistress becomes a habitual factor in his life, such a peculiar “triangle”
And habits are difficult to change, so while he lives with his wife, he will try to keep his mistress, telling her yet another sob story about his heartaches, obligations, and the “nobility” he shows by not leaving his terminally ill wife, who feels quite well and does not need anything. And he hardly thinks about changing anything. His wife is silent, his mistress is waiting, why should he bring any unnecessary problems upon himself, when everyone is silent and everyone is happy. If they weren’t silent, then he would have to think about what to do.
Also, he may be held back by the benefit he got by marrying this woman
Shared friends, memories, relatives, material benefits. There is no need to divide property, fight, listen, pay child support, and risk a relationship with the children.
So before you believe everything a married man says, think about whether you are willing to sit and wait for him to decide to leave, instead of allowing yourself to be happy by meeting someone who is free or decides to become one, but for you.
Love is wonderful, but why doesn’t he go to you, once he has fallen in love, why only for the sake of love you sacrifice your years, time, mental strength and health, staying, in the second role and, picking up the crumbs that he deigns to give you.
Think if you are in this situation, are you not worthy of more? And so bad about yourself that you are willing to sacrifice their interests and desires for the sake of someone who does not? If you do love yourself, think about what is best for you and make sure your life is not wasted. There are free men out there, so there is no point in sitting around waiting for him to decide to leave to be with the one he says he loves so much. If he loves you, he will leave and not make you suffer and “feed you” with empty promises, and if not, decide what to do next.