Relationship. 10 Signs That You’re Not Right for Each OtherOn June 26, 2021 by Helen Rogers
Telling you how to figure out if your partner isn’t the right one for you
Think back to the joy you had with your partner at the beginning of the relationship. Now the relationship does not bring the same joy, and besides cause doubts. And what would not interpret the compatibility tests for the zodiac signs, you still do not know what to do: to continue the relationship, or to complete the unpleasant period of parting with your partner? Chances are that you are reading this article in order to clarify what is happening. Our selection is made specifically to help you.
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Signs of a fading relationship:
You have different interests
We don’t have to be alike in everything. There are many couples with different interests, and that’s perfectly normal. But for a favorable coexistence, people need to periodically engage in activities together that are interesting to both. If the lovers cannot find a single thing in common, and their basic views differ as much as possible, it is very difficult to say how long the happy union will last.
You’re good apart
At the beginning of a relationship, people are constantly together, and they seem to have a lot in common. The first problems begin when you have to make a choice. You may like junk food and your partner only accepts healthy food. One wants to watch a melodrama, and the other a thriller. Different tastes get in the way of harmonious communication when partners are not willing to compromise. If you prefer to spend time apart, this is the first signal that the relationship is doomed. Signs of a happy relationship include sadness of two loving hearts for each other, even during a few days of separation. Think about how long it’s been since you’ve done something together and really enjoyed it?
Do you often try to please
Acting to please your partner is based on victim behavior. Fear that your boundaries will scare your partner away makes concessions. In a harmonious relationship, people feel as natural as possible when they are around each other. When partners are afraid to say too much, appear worse than they are or do something wrong, then they probably should not be together.
Different views on intimate relationships
The difficulty in building an intimate relationship in a couple may consist in the different sexual temperament of the partners. For example, it happens that a girl is satisfied with one sex act a week, while her young man needs several sexual acts a day. The greater the difference between the desires of one and the actions of the other, the greater the distance between the lovers. Couples with sexual disharmony find it very difficult to compensate for their own discrepancies. As a rule, such stories sooner or later end with the decision to dissolve the union.
You are ashamed of your partner
Shame most often indicates insecurity. Experiencing discomfort for your partner, we as if transferring his actions to himself. We are also afraid that the process for which we are blushing will characterize us as bad people. And since the partner was chosen by us, we also take responsibility for his behavior.
But whatever the reason behind the shyness, if the feeling comes over you often, it won’t let go so easily. This peculiarity sets one person against the other incredibly quickly, and the lack of pride in relation to the partner will only make things worse.
Retardation in development
It happens that being in a relationship, it is as if one is pulling the other to the bottom. For example, when the second half is not interested in anything or only takes, giving nothing in return. In this case, you either do not get understanding and support for your undertakings, or, even worse, you accept a share of condemnation and censure for your ideas. Not surprisingly, degradation often becomes a reason to break up. For a healthy relationship, it is normal to support your loved one and not prevent them from fulfilling themselves. A couple of people who love each other is a stimulus for each other. If this is not the case, then you really shouldn’t be together.
It happens that being in a relationship, one pulls the other to the bottom.
You don’t feel safe with your partner
Where there’s security, there’s happiness. How applicable is this statement to each of us? Maybe sometimes it’s good to get out of your comfort zone, even for love. For example, taking a trip around the world with your loved one without fear of the unknown. But if you consider a basic sense of security, like confidence in the future, the absence of such knowledge can slowly erode your happiness.
When you can rely on your partner under any circumstances, you feel at ease with him, and you feel like you’re behind a wall, it shows the reliability of not only the person, but also of your relationship. Otherwise, such a relationship will not bring you happiness, neither now, nor later.
Financial problems appeared
Love begins with anything, but not with money. At least, more often than not. But one day any relationship also hinges on financial discord. The problem is primarily attributed to different values. She may be constantly putting aside a percentage of her earnings, while he spends the money without thinking twice. Or he dreams of taking out a mortgage together, and she wanted to invest in a new car. A life together, future plans and present goals await the same decision from the two of them. But if the financial views are as different as possible, then the answer cannot be unambiguous.
In couples in which there is harmony, money difficulties are usually temporary. But if before the meeting with your partner, all was well in financial terms, and now not so much, it is a good reason to reconsider the relationship.
In couples in which there is harmony, money difficulties are usually temporary In couples in which there is harmony, money difficulties are usually temporary
You fight all the time
The quality of the relationship can be measured by the presence of conflict in the couple. Fighting sometimes is unpleasant, but normal. And if the daily conflict is commonplace, which you even cease to notice, it is a huge flaw. Clarification of the relationship, lack of mutual respect and understanding on a regular basis indicates incompatibility. Raising your voice, insults, reproaches – all this is not about love. Happy couples live in peace and harmony, because they know how to give in to each other and treat with respect the one they love.
You don’t see a future with your partner
The future ceases to matter to you, the one next to you does not figure in your future plans, and so you begin to wonder about the correctness of your choice when you connected with this person. Quarrels and misunderstandings take too much energy to work on improving the situation or getting out of the vicious circle of suffering. The easiest solution is to withdraw from the partner and hope that fate wills that everything will work itself out.
Of course, such a scenario speaks volumes. When a person drives himself into a corner from experiencing not the happiest period of his life, and surrenders to the circumstances, as if wishing to endure such “love,” then one can confidently diagnose a hundred percent reason to end the relationship, so as to end his own torment.
People often think that they are not suitable for each other, but do not understand why. If you do not find a match with our list of signs, try taking a compatibility test. There are an incredible number of them online. But you can best understand yourself by agreeing or disagreeing with the statements in our test. For each positive answer – 1 point, for each negative – 0 points.
I try to put myself in my partner’s shoes to try to understand him.
My inner circle approves of my choice of a life partner.
I do not want to change anything about her/him.
I am sure that he (she) cherishes me as much as I do.
I miss when we are not together for a long time.
I have never thought about a new relationship.
I want him (her) to be the father (mother) of my children.
My partner fully satisfies my sexual needs.
I can make concessions if he (she) insists on his (her) needs.
I see this person next to me in 30 years.
I believe that my partner will support me in any situation.
I never tire of this person’s company.
I am not afraid to offend him (her) with my jokes.
We have many common hobbies.
If my other half is not feeling well, I will take on some of the responsibilities without question.
I let her (him) relax in the company of girlfriends (friends).
If my partner forgets to wish me happy birthday, this is not a reason to quarrel.
I don’t check my partner’s phone and social networks.
I don’t complain to my friends and/or parents about my partner.
Nothing can ruin our relationship.
14 – 20 points
Congratulations! You are a great couple with very high compatibility.
8 – 13 points
Medium compatibility. You should get to know each other better. Our article with a detailed description of proven methods will help you to get closer to the person you love.
0 – 7 points
Low compatibility. Nothing good awaits you in this relationship.
It can be very difficult to discern the first signals of an unhappy relationship. Habit, comfort zone, infatuation, it all blinds us to the problems. If you are at the epiphany stage, we wish you to end the destructive union as quickly as possible and give everyone in your couple a chance to be happy with the person they need.